Change Your Frequency to Change Your Life
“Your mind will take the shape of what you frequently hold in thought, for the human spirit is coloured by such impressions.” — Marcus Aurelius
Where we are currently at in our lives is the result of all the experiences, thoughts, relationships, and actions up until this point. To reach our goals requires that we adjust at least one of these areas. Or else we will find ourselves staying within our comfort zone.
Is there anything wrong with this? For me, I believe so. However, others may have different goals or definitions of success, and maybe remaining complacent is one of them. This isn’t for me though. It takes pressure to make diamonds.
Here are two quotes that I just read from George Ravelings great newsletter, “Coaching for Success,” that summarize my beliefs in very few words.
“What is dangerous is not to evolve.” — Jeff Bezos
“Life is growth. You grow, or you die.” — Phil Knight
If you want to join me on my journey of personal evolution, then read on.
I recently read a great book by Jen Sincero called, “You Are a Badass at Making Money.” It helped change my mindset on money, and increased my awareness on what I need to be doing to move forward in the right direction.
It also helped that she spoke in a language I was familiar with.
All these words clicked, and once I read them things became a little bit more clear in my life — something any great book can help us with.
Changing our frequency to another level can be quite a challenge. We are changing the thoughts we feed in our head. And from there our behaviours can change.
When we change, we may seem like we are becoming different to those around us. In reality, we are becoming more of ourselves. It’s a shame, because the world needs more people to become their true selves.
Practicing this level of vulnerability on a daily basis is scary.
You wake up one day, full of vibrant energy ready to take on your passions and translate them into the life you dream of. Followed by a day where the first thing you think is, “Shit, why am I even trying? What’s the point, this is ridiculous.”
Here’s my advice — and trust me when I say this — some that I need to hear as much as the next person.
We need to put ourselves under pressure. We need time under tension. Then we need to step back and relax.
This might sound like a familiar system to some. Exercise. You train with the goal of creating a strong, healthy, and good looking body. In order to do this, you must temporarily stress your body. You exercise. Then you rest, eat, and sleep well enough to allow your body to repair itself and ready itself for the task again.
Over time, you may notice you need to introduce novel ways of exercising in order to advance your progress.
The same must be said for your hobbies, relationships, work, and creative endeavours.
Lao Tsu’s words were simple:
Do the work, and then step back.
You may hear people say in passing, and with well-meaning intention, “You just have to get out of your comfort zone. That’s where success lies.”
Okay, but what the hell does that look like exactly? Because we can make ourselves uncomfortable, but not necessarily have that lead to positive change. However, we only have to make ourselves slightly uncomfortable, in a way that directly leads to our main goal to keep us moving forward.
It’s these small changes in our daily habits — our behaviours — that hold the secret to our success. When we change our life frequency, we naturally attract to us what we seek.
Rumi said it best,
What you seek, is seeking you.
What to Do Next
1 . Figure out what your main goal is, and list a few of the limiting factors standing in your way of achieving that goal. You might want to lose weight, but not know how to eat properly. You may want to try cooking, but not know which equipment you need. You could have a business idea, but have no idea how to create a business plan, or who to connect to. Figure out the goal, then figure out your obstacles.
2 . Next, block off time for states of deep work. This doesn’t have to be anything crazy, such as a two hour marathon of intense work. Rather, start small. 15–20 minute blocks will work great. Set a timer, and get prepared to work!
3 . Now, it’s in this time of pressure and tension, we must do something that makes us slightly uncomfortable. Here are a few examples:
a) connect with one new person who you can help,
b) write something that you are passionate about and share it,
c) learn a new recipe,
d) try a new work out routine,
f) randomly tell someone close to you how much they mean to you
Notice that this is not Earth shattering stuff here. It’s simply based on the principle of taking action. We can only adjust something that we took action on, not what we think or dream about.
4 . Once you are done your allotted time of pure focus and action, it’s time for the piece that’s equally as important. Step back. Take a break. Relax. It’s in this time that we calm our chattering minds, and free up our subconscious to create new, and novel connections.
Following these steps will result in the following benefits:
- improved productivity
- efficient goal setting
- the creation of more meaningful work, and relationships
- improved well being, and reduced stress
- greater self-compassion
- and boosting the required skills unique to your deep work
Figure out your goal. Address you limiting factors. Make ONE small, uncomfortable action that moves you towards your goal. Rest. Repeat.
Now after doing this for one day you might feel empowered, and ready to conquer on. Except this is about when the challenging part really begins. You’re previous thoughts will come back to pull you down to your previous frequency. These are not the vibrations that will move you forward.
Clean the slate, feed the thoughts that propel you forward and then:
Wake up tomorrow, and do it all over again.
Deep Work by Cal Newport
Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Mastery by Robert Greene
Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu
The Second Book of the Tao by Stephen Mitchell